You Make Me Better

I'm a movement by myself... but I'm a force when we're together.
- You Make Me Better, Fabolous feat. Ne-Yo


It's half past midnight and I am exhausted. But there is something I have to tell you when it comes to deciding who to give your love to and when to give it to them.


The answer is: 
Give your love to the person who makes you better than you ever thought you could be.


Too many people settle for less than acceptable relationships with those that have issues with power, insecurity and sense of self. We make excuses for them; we defend them to our friends and family every time without fail; we give and give and give even though they are sucking the life out of us. We continue to love individuals who have kicked us, shoved us, pulled us under and pushed us over in order for them to get ahead or look good in front of others. 


I have been subject to humiliation and verbal degradation by a man - a boy - I damn near worshipped, but who never filled my cup in return. I thought that loving him harder, doing more for him, giving more to him, letting him walk all over me was the way to get him to finally wake up and love me properly. 


I was stupid then, we know this. Let's politely call it naïve for the sake of political correctness.


And only now can I see - with the arrival of this beautiful being (because that is how I see him) who increasingly respects and adores me, who nurtures my soul, brightens my spirit and makes my goals and dreams as important as if they were his very own - that I deserved so much better. And I always deserve better. And I should continue to allow myself to be with the person...
... who makes me better.